Our ALAWB2008 Audiobook Winners Announced!

Alawb_08_button I am sorry to be so terribly late with this!

I was so excited about our Digital Learning theme in April that I almost forgot about awarding our audio book prizes to to the reviewers who participated in A Love Affair with Books for 2008!

The drawing was done in the old-fashioned, yet reliably fair way of putting all our guest reviewers names in a hat, once for each book they reviewed, with my hubby doing the drawing honors.

Drum roll please!

And our winners are... in the order in which their names were drawn:

  1. Karen Wallace
  2. David Zinger
  3. Ben Whitehouse
  4. Dwayne Melancon
  5. Kevin Eikenberry

To our winners :) Go to Audible.com and choose any book you like, whether we had reviewed it here during ALAWB or a totally different one. Then let me know of your selection via our community mailbox and I shall send you a link for your download.

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Ho‘omaika‘i ‘ana – Congratulations!

Once again, mahalo nui loa to all our guest reviewers, and keep reading!
~ Rosa Say
as your managing editor,
Joyful Jubilant Learning

Book Obsessions: Must we really wait a whole year?

Wait? Wait for what?

Heard the talk on the street is...

Book Addict: Aw man, yesterday was the last day of March. You know what that means.

Reading Rambo: Yeah, A Love Affair With Books is over. How are we gonna wait for a whole ‘nother year?

Book Addict: Hey, I’m with you. I added almost all of the 38 books they reviewed at JJL to my must-read list this year, but that still leaves me a good 14 weeks or so to cover until March rolls around again.

Reading Rambo: My list is long too; happens every time. Those people can make book titles I’d never look at twice sound pretty darn great. Girlfriend in a Coma... a JJL homerun. Who would’a thought? And now they have me saying “thank you” to everybody... my folks keep askin’ what’s gotten into me.

Book Addict: Hey, maybe ya got something there... I’m not having much luck explaining my Perfect Mess experiment to my folks... they just ain’t havin’ it. I even got them that coffee table book, but it backfired on me because the cover kinda freaked them out.

Reading Rambo: Well, you could try reading The Opposable Mind one more time, or that Head Trip stuff again. But until we get the book, the gratitude and appreciation stuff can work.

Book Addict: Yeah, I guess it’s worth a shot. Those JJLers come up with great recommendations, that’s for sure. Well, far as reading more reviews goes, all we hafta do is subscribe to their feed. I like the email one. I betcha there will be more book reviews between now and next March ‘cause they can’t stop themselves for another year either.

Reading Rambo: Yeah, you’re right. Heck, any learners not buying books is just plain wrong. Betcha Kevin and that Josh Waitzkin guy would say so too... At JJL they say it’s the curiosity thing, but those people are brave! They even hunt down writers and authors, as a kinda Celebrity Experience thing so they can interview them.

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Book Addict: That template that Tim, the JJL graphics dude came up with this year was pretty sweet. Did you use it?

Reading Rambo: Yeah, I did. The notes I scratched out came in handy when I clicked in to the JJL bookstore yesterday. Helped me decide. Had carted five books right off the bat, but then had to pick just three and return two to my wishlist for later; three were all I could afford for now.

Book Addict: Yeah, I used the template as a shopping list too... that’s using it the easy way! Saw that Annotation Anna printed a whole bunch and had this colored paper genre-sorting thing going on… I was like, “whoa dudette!”

Reading Rambo: She does get kinda intense with her book-hacking… have you seen that arsenal of highlighters she carries around? She could be poster girl for that full contact reading everyone kept talking about.

Book Addict: Yeah, we read just as much, but we’re cool about it. Gotta leave time to shoot some hoops, and get my new pup acclimated, know what I mean?

Reading Rambo: You know it... I got your back. Just like Matt says, you gotta “Learn to appreciate slowness.”

Book Addict: Yeah, I liked that one! So what’s coming up at JJL in April? I got the bandwith now, even with all the books I’m reading, thanks to that recommendation from Starbucker; that 4-Hour Work Week stuff was meant to be the story of my life! I’m all for having my own mission one of these days, like, sooner versus later, ya know?

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Reading Rambo: Not sure about April, guess we’ll find out soon though... Hey I know, let’s ask Anna. She is always watching for the clues that Rosa and the others start to drop here and there since they work the site’s calendar ahead of time... JJL is getting to be like, an adventure or calling for them.

Book Addict: I don’t know dude, don’t really want to bother Anna until she’s got all her templates bindered or somethin’… You know what? I think she wants to be a Dervish now! Let’s go find Aurora Digital’s kid, Brex.

Reading Rambo: Brex? Well, okay. As Sir Richard Branson would say, Screw it, Let’s Do it! I’m ready for April... bring it on.

Mahalo nui loa

Comment_feedsAn immense thank you to all our generous, book-addicted, full-contact Rambo-reading, passionate and joyful book reviewers who wrote for us during March for A Love Affair with Books 2008: We have loved your reviews and have thrilled to the learning made newly possible by your recommendations.

We are ready for April too: Do YOU have your subscription ready to rock and roll in more learning with us?

The Head Trip: Adventures on the Wheel of Consciousness

When I read the January issue of Discover Magazine, I found a fascinating article about an author’s journey to discover the familiar and less familiar states of consciousness. The article was titled “How To Sleep Like a Hunter-Gatherer”, with the intriguing subtitle of “Not all people sleep in ‘giant sleep machines,’ like we do.” It was an excerpt from the book The Head Trip: Adventures on the Wheel of Consciousness by Jeff Warren

It was a provocative article and I had read it shortly before Dwayne asked me if I’d be interested in writing a book review. I had planned on reading The Head Trip anyway, so I told him yes.

Started Having Second Thoughts

The book seemed so interesting from the beginning. However, I was starting to have second thoughts when I still hadn’t finished the first chapter after almost a month. Quite honestly, I was starting to consider choosing a different book. However, I’m so glad I kept reading. By the middle of the book, I was convinced that The Head Trip may be one of the best ten books I’ve read in the last year. By the end of the book, I was convinced that this book is among the ten most interesting books I’ve ever read.

Head_trip Let me put this into some context: When I look at my list of favorite books, they typically deal with one of two topics: 1) The spiritual aspects of how we live and work, both from the cognitive brain hardware aspects, but also the thinking software perspective. Most of these books have inspired me to actually do something different. 2) Books that talk about big, big ideas: ideas so big that they take the reader on an almost psychedelic journey of ideas. (I include my list of top ten books at the bottom of this article.)

The Head Trip spans both of these favorite categories of mine. In this book, the author takes us along on his journey to personally discover, experience and chronicle all the known states of consciousness. He starts with the sleeping states (the hypnagogic, the slow wave, the Watch, the REM dream, the lucid dream, and the hypnopompic) and then goes into the waking states (the trance, the daydream, the SMR, the Zone, the pure consciousness event).

The first thing that I noticed while reading the book is the author’s sense of burning curiosity that propels this incredible (and not easy) journey. Furthermore, he has an astounding ability to record his perceptions along the way. Upon reflection, this is quite a feat: how can someone writing about what it feels like to fall asleep actually be interesting? After reading his chronicle, I was not only interested, but riveted!

During most of the chapters, I felt like I was being pulled into this incredible adventure, with the author serving as a tour guide on a frontier that we’re only vaguely aware of. And I felt that to even be on this frontier requires the help of someone like the author, to bring the sights into visibility and focus.

By the time I completed the second chapter, I found myself riveted by his descriptions of sleeping and dreaming. By the fourth chapter, I became dazzled, and started to share his sense of wonder and adventure, already starting to make plans of how I could replicate his journey. By the tenth chapter, I had dog-eared almost twenty pages so I could go back and generate a proper TODO list. By the end of the book, I had already called a neurobiologist to see if I could get training on controlling my theta and SRB waves, and find out how much insurance will cover (the answer in my case, it turns out, is 70%).

I believe that it is appropriate that the author used the metaphor of a journey to frame his book, complete with a passport stamp at the end of each chapter. It is an effective metaphor, because as a reader, I am already starting to prepare my own itinerary.

I've decided to on the “Top Ten List” format to structure this review. I’ve listed the top five surprises and revelations I had while reading his book.

Surprise 1: The real value of sleeping enough, and the strange segmented sleep

Sleep researchers have found that amazing things happen when people get enough sleep. In a series of experiments where people are deprived of artificial light for long periods of time, researchers found that people will first tend to catch up on sleep, as if to pay back any sleep deficit. And then they settle into a pattern where they are sleeping 7-9 hours per night.

What I found astonishing was how the subjects described their sense of well-being. They typically reported feelings that their days becoming more intense: “colors were more vivid, the air more crisp, their consciousness was crystal clear. Their testimony was so compelling, said Wehr, it made him wonder whether ‘any of us know what it is like to be truly awake.”

But, even more amazing, sleep researchers have found that another strange state of consciousness emerges after several weeks. After 2-3 weeks without artificial lighting, subjects’ sleep will divide into two periods, divided by a state called the Watch, a state of semi-wakeful contemplation.

Interestingly, hundreds of descriptions of this state can be found in literature written before the invention of artificial lighting (e.g., Homer’s Odyssey, Virgil’s Aeneid, Robert Louis Stevenson, etc.) It was often described as a period of reflection and relaxed alertness (and also, apparently, a common time to have sex).

The author describes his experiences with segmented sleep, and describes his hyper-alert state during waking hours, like a “plucked guitar string.”

Holy cow! There is a whole level of awareness and energy that we can derive just from sleeping more. Talk about a something that seems worthwhile to experience!

Surprise 2: The lab experiments behind lucid dreaming

Lucid dreaming describes the state when the dreamer is not only aware that he or she is in a dream, and but can then, to some extent, control their actions and surroundings in the dream. The experimental breakthrough that legitimized research in this area was when Dr. Stephen LaBerge in 1978, in controlled laboratory conditions, was able to repeatedly enter the REM dreaming state.

In the experiment, he was able to recognize that he was in a dream (i.e., “Oh, I just woke up in the lab. No, I’m not! I’m actually only dreaming that I’m back in the lab!”), and then while remaining in the dream state, deliberately signal to his research partner in the lab through up/down eye-motions (i.e., “I am dreaming. So, I will signal my research collaborator by moving my eyeballs three times, which he will be able to detect.”)

Through these experiments, he and his collaborator (Lynn Nagel) were able to confirm the existence of this special type of consciousness and awareness while dreaming. Since then, there has emerged a group of practitioners who practice lucid dreaming. One of the appeals is that for the dreamer, experiences are perceived similarly by the brain, whether they occur in a dream or in reality. Feelings reported often include heightened states of mindfulness, as well as being vivid and exultant.

What I found astonishing is that practitioners find that they often catch themselves being tricked by the brain into thinking they are in reality, when in fact they are dreaming. Lucid dreamers learn to constantly question, “Is this reality, or am I only just dreaming?” To question reality, the dreamer must always test reality, looking for key giveaways, such as light switches not working when toggled quickly, or digital clocks not advancing. Why? The dream state seem unable to replicates mechanical actions correctly.

What? Perceived reality not always being what it seems? It’s like The Matrix, but in real life!

Surprise 3: The extent to which the brain programs the mind

Studies have repeatedly shown how much influence cognition can have on the body. But, the author gives an example that I have personally experienced. Certain people have a tendency to wake up right before their alarm clock goes off. What is strange is that this holds true even on those days when they have to wake up at an unusually early time. In other words, they set their alarm clock for 3:30am, and they still wake up at 3:27am! In other words, the cognition that we need to wake up early seems to preprogram a set of chemical release that makes us wake up early.

Amazing! Even when we don’t consciously intend to pre-program our body, such as to wake up early, our bodies often chemically pre-program our bodies for us!

Surprise 4: There are tools to help increase focus

There is an increasingly accepted field called neurofeedback that is used for children diagnosed with ADD. It is predicated on the observation that certain brainwaves are critical for focusing, such as the lowered theta and elevated SMR levels. Researchers confirmed that these levels are reversed in ADD patients, and is coincident with impulsiveness, leaping from task to task, and hyperactivity.

Amazingly, simple operant training (like how Pavlov trained the dog to drool by ringing a bell) can be used to create more focused states. The author actually goes through 40 training sessions – although he makes little progress in the first 30 sessions, he finally makes a breakthrough that resulted in a friend commenting that he seemed more relaxed. He cites other people expressing far greater effects, such as feeling like “a changed man,” “becoming aware of things outside her own head: she could hear more sounds, feel sensation she hadn’t noticed before, feeling more alert and upbeat.”

The author describes his struggle to achieve his breakthrough in the allotted 40 sessions, but quotes Martin Seligman, former president of the American Psychological Association, on the “dirty little secret of biological psychiatry is that every single drug in the psycho-pharmacopia is palliative. That is, all of them are symptom suppressors, and when you stop taking them, you’re back at square one.”

What I found so intriguing is that there are the curative approaches, such as antibiotics or trained self-regulation such as neurofeedback, which make a lasting impact on how we feel and how we think.

Surprise 5:  Milestones to the Pure Consciousness Event, and strange utterances from skeptics

As an occasional meditation practitioner, I was aware of the amount of research that has been done on Buddhist meditation, but was astounded by the amount of research that has been adapted from Visuddhimagga (“the Path of Purification”), as it serves as a rigorously objective chronicle of thousands of years of meditation practice. Considerable work has been done confirming and replicating the path of meditation practitioners to achieve the PCE state.

Combine this with the fact that the brain is incredibly adaptable: the visual areas of the brain in blind people get taken over by tactile processing, and London taxi drivers increase the size of their hippocampus the longer they work.

In the same way, meditation changes the mind, to the extent that the author suggests that meditation not only helps achieve altered states, but altered traits! The author describes the levels of progression that many meditation practitioners and scientists have been able to repeatedly confirm of achieving mindfulness, to equanimity, to a cessation of consciousness.

I’ve read books on this topic before, the author presents the background and path better than any I’ve read. And it includes some very surprising sources, including Daniel Goleman (Mr. Emotional Intelligence) and Paul Ekman (famous for his groundbreaking research on facial expressions and emotion).

He describes Paul Ekman’s (a very distinguished and skeptical scientist) surprising experience: “He was so impressed by his short private session he and his daughter with the Dalai Lama that afterward he started up something called the Extraordinary Persons Project to investigate ‘the transformative quality of interactions with extraordinary beings.’.. The encounter, Ekman explained later, was what ‘some people would call a mystical, transforming experience… I was inexplicably suffused with physical warmth during those five to ten minutes… I felt a goodness I’d never felt before in my life, all the time I sat there…” He then describes that after a lifetime of erupting anger, after his meeting, his flare-ups ceased. “I believe that physical contact with that kind of goodness can have a transformative effect.” (!!!)

This borders on the woo-woo, as are some other books on my favorite list. But given this kind of substantiation, it reinforced to me that there is something in this journey that makes it worthwhile destination!

In summary

In writing this book review, I found myself dusting off some of my favorite books I’ve read and recommitting myself to increasing my mindfulness and meditation practices. The book reinforced the value of some very pragmatic steps we can take to increase our awareness of the world we live in, and be more cognizant of how the brain (hardware and software) affects how we think.

Even if I never achieve the Post Consciousness Event, even reading about others achieving it inspires me with a sense of awe and wonder. And to me, that has very spiritual aspects, as well as being inherently a joyful and jubilant learning experience.

Some of my favorite books in this area

Brain hardware and software (from scientifically rigorous to increasingly woo-woo):

Mind expanding ideas:


About Gene Kim;
Gene loves the idea of joyful and jubilant learning, especially about the software and hardware aspects of cognition, and the biological basis of elevated states of awareness. You can read about his journey of becoming trained as a Theory of Constraints Jonah at http://tocjourney.typepad.com.

Girlfriend in a Coma- Douglas Coupland

Girlfriend in a Coma is a novel by Canadian writer and conceptual artist Douglas Coupland. I've never been too sure about how to pronounce his name "Cope-land" or "Coop-land". Most times I just settle for Doug. I've had a long standing adoration for Coupland's work both written and constructed. I made a special visit to the Canadian High Commission in London to see some furniture Coupland had designed around notions of what it is to be Canadian. I also trekked to Stratford Upon Avon where I was shocked by Doug performing his play "September 10th, 2001." This sexy sounding Canadian had turned into Ernest Hemingway without anyone warning me.

Girfriend_in_a_coma How you'll respond to this review will probably depend on your previous encounters with Doug. People are generally divided into two categories: 1) those who think he's ultimate social commentator and 2) those who think he's just another pop culture junkie. I fall into a third category 1.5) those who are unsure whether Doug adores pop culture or if he's gently mocking it. I got to have the briefest of conversations with the Big Man Himself in Stratford after the show and I asked him directly. He smiled enigmatically and said "No one's asked me that before..." and drifted away humming. I was, like, totally bummed.

"Girlfriend in a coma" is a Smiths song title. The song contains the haunting lyric "let me whisper my last goodbye" which is a good way into the novel. The novel tells the story of a group of friends growing up in Vancouver, Canada in the late 1970's. On the night of a teenage house-wrecking party Karen, falls into a coma. More alarmingly, she seemed to expect it, having given her boyfriend, Richard, a letter detailing the vivid dreams of the future she had experienced and how she wanted to sleep for a thousand years to avoid that vision.

The opening of the novel is a vision of what happens after the end of the world relayed to us by Jared, a ghost. It's a shocking and despairing vision of a world without people, technology and concern. Jared tells us that most of us don't learn from second chances that we really learn from third chances- "after losing and wasting vast sums of time, money, youth and energy". The first part of the book covers the next 17 years in the lives of Jared's friends- the friends who "finally learned their lesson". The story, as Jared puts it, gets bigger than any individual and includes all of us and ultimately becomes Jared's story.

I don't want to flesh out the plot lines as the organic growth of the novel is something to savour. Meeting and getting to know about the characters, following their stories and ending up at one of the most chilling finales in fiction. Anyone who liked, loved or was moved by "it's a wonderful life" will enjoy GFIAC.

Which brings me to the "why" part of my post. Why should this be part of the Love Affair with Books? I can promise you this book won't make you a better manager, won't help you be a better lover, won't improve your social life, won't give you six/seven/eight handy hints on how to be more effective. This book will however draw you in, lull you into thinking you know how it will end and then chew you up, break you into small pieces and then spit you out. Then ending of the novel is a rallying cry for awareness, questioning and being totally present. It's the ultimate "plan b" for humanity. Plan A isn't doing us that well and Doug provides us with a way of creating a new paradigm. Buy this novel. It will change you.

~ Ben Whitehouse


Ben Whitehouse works at the Guild of Students at the University of Birmingham in the UK. He has a blog here: http://beninbrum.blog.co.uk/ In his spare time he runs a book group, film club, and finds time to campaign on issues around LGBT rights, local residents rights and he also helps entertaining his three nephews who he loves very much.

This is the second book Ben has reviewed for ALAWB; his first review was on Speak Truth to Power by Kerry Kennedy.

The Game of My Life: A True Story

Game_of_my_life The Game of My Life: A True Story Of Challenge, Triumph, and Growing Up Autistic
By Jason J-Mac McElwain, Daniel Paisner

Jason McElwain shot a final three-pointer to rack up a school record of six three-point baskets and 20 total points in the last three minutes of the final game in his senior year. But, the most incredible part of the story is that J-Mac, as he’s affectionately known, performed this incredible feat in spite of the fact he was diagnosed with severe autism at a very young age. Thanks to early detection and increasingly sophisticated behavioral interventions, and parents who go the extra mile, life can hold more promise for children like Jason.

J-Mac replays the magic four minutes against the backdrop of his life as he sees it, along with Daniel Paiser, New York Times best selling author, in The Game of My Life: A True Story of Challenge, Triumph, and Growing Up Autistic. Jason’s mom and dad, brother, coach, basketball players and friends share their minds and hearts in anecdotes. Because Jason tells most of the story himself, brings a poignancy to it that readers will enjoy.

ESPN gives us glimpse of Jason’s life and those last momentous four minutes when Coach Jimmy Johnson said, “Jason, you’re in.”

Here are a few snippets to give you pieces of the fascinating kaleidoscope you’ll find in The Game of My Life …

Jason: “I still had my dream of playing basketball on the high school team and winning a sectional title. I don’t know were that dream came from, or when I started talking about it, but it was always there, for as long as I can remember. I told myself the coach could cut me from the team, but he couldn’t cut me from my dream.”

David McElwain, Father: “My thing was, at the beginning of a new season, with a new coach, I never wanted to tell anyone he was autistic. I wanted Jason to make his own first impression. My wife, that’d be the first thing she’d do. She’d call the coach right away and talk to him about autism, but I didn’t want Jason to be treated differently. I didn’t want the coach to be afraid to put him into the game. He could play just like any other kid could play, but he was also autistic.”

Debbie McElwain, Mother: “You can’t imagine what it’s like, to be the mother of a child who was diagnosed as severely autistic as a toddler, to struggle with him the whole way through all his doctors’ appointments and his special-education classes and his autistic outbursts and all the other things that had to happen differently for him, to see the disappointment on his face as he watched the other kids do the things he couldn’t do, and then to have this one great moment where we could all just close our eyes and think he was like everyone else. Really, you can’t imagine it. I wanted to jump from my seat and run down to the court and hug Coach Johnson and the other coaches and the other boys on the team and everyone in that gym, really, for helping Jason to experience something like this.”

Jim Johnson, Coach: “The first time Jason shot the ball, coming off that screen, he missed so badly. It wasn’t like him, to miss so badly. He missed about six feet, left…

My heart sank for Jason, but he was fearless. He came out gunning. This was one of those times where the autism helped. It’s weird to say this, but he was so completely focused on scoring that nothing else seemed to bother him. He was in such a zone. That’s just how he is. Typically, when you put a kid in the game like that and he shoots an air ball, he’s very apprehensive to shoot again, from embarrassment. But Jason doesn’t get embarrassed. This just rolled off his back.”

Jason, learned to walk late, but by mimicking his brother, Josh, and literally following in his footsteps Jason was soon on his way. Because Josh loved basketball, so did Jason and he pushed himself to learn. He made shots over and over in his driveway court playing knockout or H-O-R-S-E with Josh. Every Christmas his mom bought him a new basketball and say it was from Josh. His love for basketball was obsessive as he focused so much time and attention to it.

Though he struggled to learn words and talk as a child, and though he has not yet been able to graduate from high school as most of his friends, Jason wrote his own rap lyrics that express the essence of his story in this must read book…

Never give up, never give in.

Be motivated in everything you do,

If you want to catch a dream.

The sky’s the limit.

Give all that you can,

If you want to catch a dream.

Jason built dendrite brain cells for new skills he practiced daily. He tapped these to achieve an incredible triumph in the last four minutes of the final game! What’s stopping you from reaching your goals?


Robynmc Post Author Dr. Robyn McMaster is Sr. VP of the MITA International Brain Based Center. She equips leaders with practical brain based tactics that optimize satisfaction and output at work. Check out her blog, Brain Based Biz to see how you can tap into more of your brain to ratchet up your life and work.

“Thank You” Isn’t Just an Etiquette Thing

When I was little I was taught to always say, “thank you” when anyone did something, said something, or gave me something nice. I knew that was not only the right thing, but it was the polite thing to do. Never would I have thought as a wide-eyed, curious little girl that the phrase would serve a greater purpose than just a nice form of etiquette.

Thank_you_power Fast forward to the present time, I will admit that I am a HUGE proponent of gratitude and gratitude exercises. I express gratitude daily and support my clients and students in using gratitude exercises to increase their energy and combat self doubt and fear. One afternoon, while waiting for my flight I stopped into the airport bookstore. While browsing the crowded shelves the title Thank You Power; Making the Science of Gratitude Work for You grabbed my attention. Without reading the insert or even the first few pages, I bought the book curious to read journalist Deborah Norville’s take on the near and dear subject.

Now anyone who has seen “The Secret” or read any books on the Law of Attraction (as Adam did, reviewing for us here) will most certainly have come across the concept of being thankful and how freely expressing gratitude helps to support positive manifestation. So why read yet another book on the power of gratitude and positive thought? In my humble opinion, you can’t be reminded enough and Deborah certainly captures the essence of the power of being thankful. While what she shares and how she shares it feels a little redundant, this 146 page quick read incorporates scientific study information with practical advice on how to improve your thought process, reduce stress, and increase your daily happiness all by using the power of “thank you”.

She reminds us that;

1) Being thankful for the things you already have helps you to positively manifest more of the good stuff.

2) Counting your blessings helps to shift your attitude and raise your energy level.

3) There is always good in every situation, even the bad situations. Look for the good, as there is an awesome learning experience to be had.

4) Being kind to others definitely has a boomerang effect.

5) Doing something nice for another helps to raise your self confidence and how you feel about you.

Think about the last time you did something nice for someone else. How did it feel? Or consider this, if we are in a positive frame of mind, aren’t the good things that surround us more obvious? When was the last time you practiced an attitude of gratitude and what happened?

In closing, I would like to leave you with a little challenge. Since it takes 21 days to form a habit, each day (for the next 21 days) before your feet hit the floor say “thank you” for at least five things in your life and each night before your head hits the pillow please do the same. Make note of what happens; you might be thoroughly surprised.

Here’s to the power of “thank you” and experiencing daily happiness and many positives.
~ Pam Thomas


Pam_headshot Pam Thomas is an ICF certified passion purveyor, change catalyst, and accountability agent (in other words a life and corporate coach). She is also the author of the e-workbook series Will the Real You Please Step Forward and two blogs; Make the Most of U and Walking My Own Walk .

Writing Tools

Princess_di_jeans_i Do you think Princess Diana had the ability to slip into an ordinary blouse and pair of jeans and make those clothes look stunning?  Perhaps enough to even launch a fashion?  And how mystifying that women throughout the world could put on the same clothes and for some reason not elicit a similar reaction.

What Princess Di did to clothes, Roy Peter Clark does to words.  The man slips into a few paragraphs and sounds as elegant as Di looked.  You or I might be able to convey a similar message, but for some reason it just doesn't sound as clear and to the point.

Would you like your writing to sound more clear and to the point?  Roy Peter Clark's Writing Tools will help you to do just that. 

To gain the most from Roy's work, one must enter into the mindset of a carpenter or other tradesman who works with tools.  Roy divides his sage and wisdom into four tool boxes:

  1. Nuts and bolts: strategies for making meaning at the word, sentence and paragraph levels.
  2. Special effects: tools of economy, clarity, originality and persuasion.
  3. Blueprints: ways of organizing and building stories and reports.
  4. Useful habits: routines for living a life of productive writing.

Each of Roy's fifty chapters represents a writing tool.  In chapter fifty, Roy tells us to build a writing workbench to keep our tools in. As someone with a great reverence for tools, I so appreciate Roy's approach.  Techniques to improve our writing are to be cherished and oiled and polished and stored in velvet lined mahogany drawers.

In chapter forty-eight, Roy tells us how his collection of books on writing falls into two categories.  One category is like Elements of Style and the other is like Bird by Bird.  This struck a chord of connection to my own collection.  It's the same.  But more importantly it illustrates an undertone to Writing ToolsWriting Tools is like Elements of Style and Bird by Bird. It will help us with the nuts and bolts of writing while opening our minds to the stories of our lives, and to those we've yet to live.

This might be one of my favorite tools:

Writing_tools Good writers turn stories into workshops, intense moments of learning in which they advance their craft.  I learned more about reporting and telling stories from "Three Little Words" than from any other writing experience of my life.  I'm still learning from it.  Bit I did not learn how much I learned until I stumbled on a strategy I've turned into a tool: I write a mission statement for each story.

Writing down your mission turns your vague hopes into language. By writing about your writing, you learn what you need to learn.

The difference between how Princess Diana electrified folks with the clothes she wore and how Roy Peter Clark brushes strokes of clarity with words is that throughout eternity, there will never be another Princess Di.  Roy gives us the tools to craft and build stories.  He gives us hope too.  Though we may never write with such elegance, it is possible.

Dave Rothacker

The Adventure of Finding One's Calling

I'm fascinated by tales of people doing amazing work. One of my favorite shows is Dirty Jobs (you know, the one where host Mike Rowe spends time with the folks who take care of sewers, manage pig farms, and deconstruct parade floats). What I find most interesting is how each of the folks who do dirty jobs for a living take such great pride in their work. It's with that same curiosity that I approached Chris Ballard's The Butterfly Hunter: Adventures of People Who Found Their True Calling Way Off the Beaten Path.

Butterfly_hunter In The Butterfly Hunter, Ballard observes and interviews ten people who managed to find their own calling in life doing work that's far from ordinary. Some of the colorful characters include a man who makes prosthetic eyes, a woman who is a competitive lumberjill, and the titular professional butterfly hunter. Every single individual profiled in the book, through their own experience and story, offers some valuable lessons on what it means to pursue a calling that is unique to their personal strengths and passions.

Lesson #1
There isn't a magic formula or predefined ten step program to help us find our calling. It's all about doing the hard work of knowing ourselves, staying true to what we love doing, and taking a risk here and there. And that's what I found compelling about this book. It's a healthy dose of inspiration through the stories of other intrepid souls. That's a nice change of pace to the more prescriptive career manuals out there now (though I shouldn't be too critical...I may be writing one of those someday in the future).

Lesson #2
Identity and work can become intertwined...and when they do we like to call it workaholism. But, that may be unfair and unnecessarily judgmental. I think there's a difference between overworking for the wrong reasons (chasing money or prestige, for instance) and overworking because you simply love the work itself. All of the individuals interviewed by Ballard acknowledged that they couldn't imagine doing anything else in their life. Many noted that they felt it was what they were born to do. So, all the talk of work/life balance as a uniform and one-size-fits-all concept doesn't work. We have our own sense of balance that's unique to each of us.

Lesson #3
Our calling should bring out our best self. As Ballard writes, "people who love their work love themselves at work." And those who are intimately engaged in their calling see beauty in the details of their work. It's in the details that we can find our voice.

In all, The Butterfly Hunter is an engrossing read. As a journalist, Ballard is able to capture what makes each of his subjects tick. And he artfully reflects on some important questions about what our work means in this modern age. In that same spirit, I wrote something on the last page that's well worth sharing with the JJL community:

Is the best question to ask someone, "Do you love your job?" Everybody has a different definition of love. Perhaps it's better to inquire about the relationship someone has with their work. Do they feel that it's a job, a career, or a calling?


Post Author Chris Bailey is a coach, consultant, and organizational agitator (in a good way, of course) at Bailey WorkPlay. He writes the Alchemy of Soulful Work blog where he helps individuals and organizations create purpose and meaning in their work.

He's lucky to have a wife who reads tons of books and never fails to recommend a great one when he asks...like this one. Thanks, Carrie!

Learning to Appreciate Slowness

Life is busy. It is over stimulated and people are looking for ways to slow down and reduce the stress in life. I have been wrestling with this issue over the past few years, so when I found In Praise of Slowness I was intrigued.

Inpraiseofslowness The cover is what caught my eye.  I know you can't judge a book by its cover but it is the reason I picked it up.  I was in line at Powell's (a Portland Landmark and heaven for book lovers) when I found it – simple and clean with a counter cultural title.

Most people grab breakfast as you run out the door.  Commute an hour or more to work.  Work nonstop all day.  Grab lunch at your desk.  Hurry to finish work and answer email after email.  Commute home and hour or more.  Run the kids from one place to the next.  Drive through some place for dinner.  Put the kids to bed.  Do things around the house all while checking email some more.  Then maybe a few minutes to yourself and crash in bed so you can do it all again in 6 hours or less.  Sound familiar?   I hope not - but I know that is how my life goes most of the time and I know that is normal for many others.

In Praise of Slowness challenges every piece of that "norm".  More and more this routine is part of the US culture.  These concepts are not new - they were the standard at one time.  But with technology and capitalism and many other things, life is fast, complex and stressful.  Many people are trying to find way to counteract that.  This book is about the ever increasing movement to slow down things in life.

The book is broken down into the main sections of life:

· Food - Have you ever had a meal where you sit down, lose track of time, are in a peaceful setting and by the time you leave you are so relaxed you have no idea how long you have been there?  On vacation maybe? But probably not a normal occurrence.  Slow Food is a movement within itself.  The heart of the movement is in Europe but it gives some great examples of how to enjoy a meal from cooking to consuming.

· Cities - Where you live and how the area is designed has a major impact on your life.  A slow city reduces the bad, such as noise and traffic, while increasing the good - green spaces, local farmers, parks, nature, the environment and hospitality.  The book describes it best as "a Slow City is more than just a fast city slowed down.  The movement is about creating an environment where people can resist the pressure to live by the clock and do everything faster.”

· Mind/Body - This is probably one of the areas that more people have started to explore.  Meditation, Yoga, Chi Kung, SuperSlow (a method of weight lifting) are some examples. All of these things try to get the individual to slow down and focus on the current moment.  I do Yoga and some meditation.  I will say that the hardest part of this is slowing down long enough to make your self do it.  Many of these activities slow down time and when you live a life at a fast pace taking the time seems very hard to do.

· Medicine - People are tired of traditional western medicine.  They are tired of being filled with pills or being told that there is nothing wrong with them.  Complementary and alternative medicine (CAM) is a less hurried holistic view of medicine.  This includes homeopathy, herbalism, aromatherapy, acupuncture, massage and energy healing and chiropractic care.  The book walks through many of these.  While these methods can produce results, patience is a must because there are rarely any quick fixes.

· Sex - How much needs to be said about this chapter.  One of the better things in life should be enjoyed.  This book gives you ways to slow down and enjoy it more.

· Work - An area probably everyone can relate.  With email, cell phones, email on your cell phone and laptops, work can rarely shut off.  Believe it or not there is a case for less work - not more.   A different pace of work can result in better results.  A little test - make a list of what you think is most important in your life.  Then make a list of what you make the most important based on your actions.  You will probably find a need to read this chapter.

· Leisure - For me leisure is a good example of how all of these interrelate.  I find myself worrying about what I should be doing while doing something that would be considered leisure.   Leisure is essential to life and it will help you to realize that all of these are needed.  Leisure will let you rest and recharge which in turn will help you address all of the other areas.   It is hard to make any changes when you feel tired and beat down all the time.

· Children - Don't raise your kids with the same hurried lifestyle you have come to dread.  Children learn from what they observe no matter how many times you tell them to do what you say not what you do.  This chapter gives you ideas on how to raise an unhurried child.

Inpraiseofslownesspaper The book is good in that it gives many examples of what people are doing and the author experienced many of these to give the examples a very personal feel.  The topics are great but the chapters can seem to go on and on.  I found myself skimming through some of the chapters because I did not know when it would end. After a while it seemed to be repeating the same thing over and over. Each of the examples probably has different impact for each reader.

One of the beautiful things about the way this book is set up is that because that each topic is set apart in chapters you can pick and choose what you want to look at.  It is a good book to go back and re-read chapters depending on what you are working on. More information on the author and the book can be found on his website.  For those of you who want more information quicker there is a 20 minute TED video.

It is not possible to change everything at once and it can be hard to stay with a change when other parts of your life can drag you back into the race.  By recognizing there are so many areas that can be different people can start to make changes.

Please let me know what you think and better yet has any of this worked in transforming your life? Real life examples not only encourage people but let them know it can be done.

– Matt Hixson

A note on the book Jackets: The white is the hard-cover and the black the newest edition in paperback.


Matt_thumbnail_web_view Matt is a husband, father of 2 wonderful girls (4 & 2), employee at a growing software company, soon to be MBA graduate, eBay entrepreneur, part time blog experimenter (My Stress Induced Blog & The Monk and the Riddle of the Red Rubber Ball) and in need of Slowness.

Divine Canine: The Monks' Way

Divine_canineYvonne DiVita of Lip-sticking and Scratchings and Sniffings reviews: Divine Canine: The Monks' Way to a Happy, Obedient Dog, Everything You Need to Know. Published by Hyperion out of NY, NY.

The book is full of marvelous photos, stories about training dogs, and some really excellent advice on how to keep your dog from jumping up on people, ignoring you when you call, and even how to get your new pup acclimated to the household.

Highly recommended... partly for the pics, mostly for the advice. The Monks' of New Skete use a lot of love, and teach you how to use praise and rewards properly. Enjoy the video...

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puppy photo by angel shark.

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